Man, Who the hell are you??!!!

If a man wants you, nothing can keep himaway.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can makehim stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no,
you can't"be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better".

You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.
He willuse it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...

Even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...
compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships. …
there is nothing cute about baggage...

Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals.

Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...
When a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...
You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.



PS : Oprah, I love you.... you, one of the persons who's inspiring me so far... keep the rock!!!

Bad Mood Berats..

hari ini, gw bete banget...
sebel...
gw ngga mau bahas alasan penyebab ke-bad-mood-an gw, karena malah akan nambah kesebelan gw aja...
untungnya, gw punya temen-temen kantor yang super duper menghibur... mereka kayak ngerti kalo gw lagi bete berat.. ada aja hal yang mereka kerjain demi bikin gw ketawa lagi...

mas rahmat, tetangga cubicle gw, nanya gini : "lo sehat-sehat aja 'kan, dew..?"
karena lagi bete abis, gw cuma bisa jawab :"kayaknya sih engga..."
eh, ini nih jawaban dia atas replying gw : "yahelah dew, 'kan gw juga udah bilang dari kemaren, kalo belom lulus ujian kesehatan jiwa, lo jangan ke kantor dulu..."

dudul.. dudul...

trus, tadi tuh pas lagi makan siang barengan di pantry, 'kan menunya ada ikan tongkol gitu..
tanpa gw sadari.. seinget gw, gw nanya ama iyan (puncher di kantor) : "Yan, ini namanya tongkol, 'kan?"
tapi, kok mas rahmat bilang gini ya ke gw : "aduh, dewi, jangan ngomong jorok dong.."
gw langsung bingung gitu, kok gw dibilang jorok..? :"lho, kan gw bilangnya "tongkol"..."
tapi iyan langsung nyambungin.. :"tadi ngomongnya kebalik, mbak.."
haaa???
seisi pantry langsung ketawain gw.. tapi, kok gw masi bingung juga...walopun akhirnya gw ketawa juga di tengah-tengah kebingungan gw...
mungkin karena ngeliat gw masi kebingungan, mas hakim bilang gini :"dewi tu masih kecil Pak Rahmat, jadinya ngga ngerti... makanya kayak iyan tuh, masih kecil tapi udah bisa "bikin anak kecil"..."
terus, mas rahmat bilang gini :"makanya punya pacar, biar ngga jadi anak kecil terus.."
lah? kok pacar sih ? jaka sembung bawa goblok...

Ah.. udahlah..
gw musti yakin, kalo gw bisa ngelewatin semua ini...

Still..

duh, ngga nyangka.. udah 6 hari lewat dari taon baru.. ternyata begini ya rasanya taon baru.. *sigh!**... kalo aja, tangan ini sanggup menuliskan semua keinginan, harapan dan cita-cita, pasti jadinya kayak satu buku yang tebal...jadi inget ama komentar seorang teman, katanya gw itu wanita dengan seribu satu keinginan.. walah, hyperbol banget ngga sih tu?..



terus, udah taon baru.. gw tau musti ngerjain apa aja, buat hidup gw dan keluarga tentunya.. rasanya udah apal di luar kepala deh..

namun, entah kenapa, pikiran yang taon lalu ada, sekarang masih aja ada.. ketika gw melihat begitu banyak orang yang yakin atas kemampuan gw, namun, gw seperti ngga berdaya..



ini aja, awal taon masi belom lama, baru semingguan, tapi kok, udah banyak bener rasanya kesempatan yang datang.. gw ampe bingung mau mulainya.. iya sih, gw musti liat itu sebagai rejeki dari Alloh.. gw seneng kok mendapatkan semuanya, namun.. rasanya gw udah makin tua.. halah!



gw cepet banget kecapean, apa lagi kalo malem, gampang banget tertidur.. dan gampang pula terbangunnya.. denger suara mama bangun aja, gw bisa ikutan bangun.. alhasil, bangun tidur bukannya tambah seger, jadi malah bawaannya lebih ngantuk lagi..



semalam gw baru tidur jam 01.30 tengah malam, gara-gara kerjaan.. tadinya gw mau bablasin aja ampe pagi skalian, biar selse maksudnya, namun.. kepala gw pusiing banget ngeliat lembaran-lembaran jurnal penelitian. Kalo liat dari materinya sih menarik, gw semangat bener ngerjainnya.. boleh dibilang kalo gw begitu menikmati tiap teori yang ada... namun, aduh.. kok cepet bener cape-nya?



tadi pagi, bangun jam 05.10.. kepala masi berat bener, tapi alarm tiba-tiba mengingatkan kalo bakalan ada meeting pagi ini... aduuh.. kan gw masi ngantuk berat nih...



pas meeting, ada kerjaan baru lagi... eh, gw seneng sih ama temanya : unik dan challenging lah - tentang konsep pembiayaan model baru dari bank untuk kalangan bisnis - ... tapi pas dikasi tau deadline-nya, gw langsung speechless... aduh, yang lagi jalan aja beloman selesai, napa udah ada lagi.. beloman, yang lagi on going bidding... kalo misalnya ternyata menang gimana? **lho, kok menang malah bingung ya?**



ayo uwie, semangat... semangat! pasti bisa... berusaha, berdoa, dan bersyukur!